mike-workingI am usually working on something. If I’m not working at my day job I’m writing blogs, taking classes, or working on some other family task.  I love my to-do lists and really hate it when my schedule gets disrupted… so living in a family with special needs is a real challenge for me and, if it wasn’t for the glue Mrs. Superdad brings to the household, I would have gone insane long ago.  She always makes sure that I get the time I need, but does her job to ensure I don’t become too obsessed.

Out of the blue a couple of weeks ago, MC came to me and said he wanted to work. I wasn’t sure what he meant, but I was clear that playing video games was not work.  For some time Mrs. Superdad and I have been encouraging the kids to take what they like and turn it into something they can do and explore.  Our attempts to guide them in this have generally led to much frustration.  However, with MC’s interest in working with Dad in his office, it seemed like a good opportunity.  MC loves movies and video games, (what 10 year old doesn’t?), and he has always been pretty imaginative.  So I sat him at the computer beside me and I let him install an app that allows him to “build” basic video games and I installed some software so he could “do” video editing.  Now he looks forward to sitting in the office with me to build his games and videos; I couldn’t be happier.  Sometimes he can distract me, but it is a small price to pay to spend time with him and watch him “do” something with what he loves instead of just be a spectator.  It is also exciting to see him learn and watch his creativity.

MC initiated the contact with me and I’m so thankful. However, it has also made me realize that my other kids have very different personalities and it isn’t fair for me to expect them to do the same.  Being a list oriented person means that anything I want to ensure gets done must make my list; that includes spending time with the children.  There is no doubt it is the most important task, yet it tends to be the one I most neglect.  I need to do a better job of putting my kids at the top of my lists.  After all they won’t be kids forever.


sorryThe most overused and least understood word in my kids’ vocabulary is sorry. I must hear this word 20 times a day, anytime I call them out (not putting their dishes in the sink, laundry away, flushing the toilet, etc…).  Then when I explain to them that sorry is something you say when you feel bad for what you’ve done and don’t intend to do it again I get another “sorry”.  What do you think I hear when I ground them after they’ve said sorry? “I said I was sorry!”.  Sometimes I feel like blood will shoot out of my eyes!  I’ve also noticed the older kids have adjusted the sorry to be followed with an excuse.  For example:

Dad or Mrs. Superdad: “MJ have you taken out the trash?” (Knowing full well he hasn’t)
MJ: “Sorry, I forgot.”
Dad or Mrs. Superdad: “Trash day has been Wednesday for the past 2 years.  How is it possible you forget every week.”
MJ: “Sorry.”
Dad or Mrs. Superdad: “Why don’t you just set an alarm like we’ve been telling you.”
MJ: “Well the alarm doesn’t work and blah…blah…blah…”
Dad or Mrs. Superdad: “What is wrong with your alarm?” (His alarm works fine)
MJ: “I’ll go take out the trash.”

So this week I’ve decided to do a little experiment I like to call “Dad’s Sorry”; Mrs. Superdad is also onboard of course.  The goal is to teach the kids that the word sorry is useless and even hurtful when it isn’t genuine.  I don’t want to spill the details until after the results can be tallied.  What is the most overused word in your house?